Friday, August 28, 2009

To keep or not to keep...

So yesterday I finally went and got a much needed pedi. My feet brushed up against the hubs in bed the other night and he accused me of growing talons down there....not far from the truth, they had gotten pretty long. Yikes!! I took it as a sign he wouldn't care I spent the money to pamper myself and save his legs from being ripped to shreds. Why is it I can make decisions all day long but when it comes to picking a nail polish color from the giant wall I am eternally stumped. Damn you OPI for making no less then a million wonderful colors. I toyed with the new neon trend. Considered something more sheer. But finally decided it was a crummy, cold, gloomy day out and I was feeling very fall. Sad really...it's not even Labor Day and I'm already trading in my pink toes. Sigh. Anyways....I ended up with this gorgeous hue and I'm lovin' it!

While I was sitting in the fabulous massage chair I was trying to read the latest issue of Cosmo. By trying I mean I was reading it, the little man doing my toes was oblivious to this and attempted to talk to me the WHOLE TIME! Pet peeve. If I'm reading, I don't want to make small talk. I want to enjoy my pedi that I'm paying good money for and read my crappy magazine that I don't get at home anymore. Kthxbai. Tantrum over. I cancelled my subscription a year ago cause it was getting too trashy and I wanted to feel more grown up. Whatever, I snag a copy at the salon every chance I get...only difference is now I'm not paying for it. Best of both worlds. So anyways, there was a little blurb in the "man" section that said 36% of men keep mementos from past relationships. This got me thinking. When I break up with someone, I rid myself of their entire existence. I don't keep cards or notes and I never received any gifts worth keeping. Prior to my hubs I had never been a relationship long enough to acquire anything good like jewelry. So now the wheels in my brain are turning. Is my hubby in the 36% of keepers or the remaining tossers. He can be sentimental...I know he has all the cards, letters, emails, etc etc that I've given him. Is there a box of girlfriends past floating around out there. The jealous woman in me is now putting way to much thought and energy into this so I forget about it...which basically means I didn't think about it again until I saw the Mr. later that night.

Me: So I read in Cosmo that 36% of men keep crap from their exes. Are YOU in that 36%???
Mr: No. Except maybe clothes I got and underwear.

Me: Underwear? Well hopefully not HER underwear, cause that's a little twisted.

Mr: Yeah hun...I kept her panties. NO....underwear she gave me.

Me: Lame. Who buys underwear for their boyfriend.

Mr: Ummm....you did, last week.

Me: Oh right. Well I'm your wife, so that's to be expected. Underwear and socks are the only gifts you'll ever get now.

Mr: Great.


Oh my husband...always the funny one. So if your husband/boyfriend/fiance kept old love letters and mementos from his exes would you care?? On the flip side, do YOU keep stuff like that??


18 comments:

Ashley said...

LOL, I love your last comment on any future gifts he'll be recieving! I'm a purger (and not the bullemic kind, just in case). I can't hold on to anything for longer than year! I can't help it! It's both a strength and a weakness. I have NOTHING from old boyfriends. My husband, on the other hand, keeps everything. He gets it from his parents. I believe that it is my sole purpose on earth to break him of this habit. For the first year and a half that we dated, he still wore a pair of shoes an ex girlfriend gave him. Once I learned where they came from, I immediately bought him a new pair. Seriously, like that day :)

High Heels and Huntin' Boots said...

I LOVE this post! *LOL* I was cleaning a closet out last night and found a HUGE bag of nail polish...I'm debating on whether or not to chunk it because it's at least 3+ years old. How long is nail polish good for, anyway? I am a pack rat. Before my crazy jealous ex-college bf, I kept EVERYTHING! I mean, cards, notes, flowers (I dried them and then put them in the top of my closet), pictures, gifts, etc. And then crazy ex bf got jealous looking through a photo album one day and insisted that I throw a bunch of pictures away that even hinted at a previous love interest. I ended up throwing a small fraction of pictures away. Then the hubs came along...and a few months before our wedding day I purged EVERYTHING. Only because I had stumbled upon a lot of the hubs mementoes from previous relationships (and it drove me crazy). The hubs had a high school gf for four years and a college gf for four years. And one of the first times we hungout he brought over a college album that had TONS of pictures of the college gf. His parents' house had pictures of both hs gf and college gf the first time I visited. So, needless to say he had lots of things...pictures, cards, letters, gifts, date party t-shirts, etc. that I either found before we got married or in the process of moving. We threw it all away, but I was pretty jealous when we first got married. Stumbling onto stuff like that isn't fun. But, three years later, I look back on it and I know it was my silly immaturity at the time.
Now, underwear on the other hand is strange. Who buys their bf underwear? (Sorry for the longest comment ever!)

bananas. said...

i usually keep everything. that's just the person i am. i have a hard time letting go of THINGS not people. haha. but i actually just recently threw away a bunch of my ex's old love letter to me. it was exhilarating!

Lindsey said...

LOL I hate that! That always happens to me at the hair salon! But so nice that you had a pedi, jealous!

ALin said...

OPI is the devil! And by devil I mean that I CANNOT JUST.CHOOSE.ONE.COLOR. I love them all. And by love them all I mean that I have once or twice considered painting different fingers, different colors . . . that's just what brand of crazy I am . . .

MOVING ON! J never had a really serious gf before me and while I had one, I haven't kept anything from that relationship . . . 6+ years ago. MAN! Has it been that long!

Jules said...

1. Love the new color for your toes. It is very fall.
2. I hate when I go to the nail salon to relax and they talk the entire time.
3. I have been known to keep a few things, but I toss most of it. I do have some jewelry from exes that I would not get rid of.
4. I have never run into any of hubby's stuff from an ex and I don't think he has anything like that.
5. I think the underwear thing is a little weird too ;)

Tracy-Girl said...

hahahahaha! you are so funny! you and your husband crack me up! I am the same way with picking nail polish.

ModernMom said...

Going for a long overdue Pedi tomorrow!

I've been married for more than 12 years so if Hubby's got some undies hanging around from his ex..well ...time to burn em!

Oh, and thanks for your sweet words about my babes trip to the ER this week. :)

the future mrs Hinz said...

well i kept my dog tico from a previous relationship - does that count?? haha :) i do know that matt has a lot of photo albums that girls made him in college and his ex is in a few of them - tahts about it. doesnt bother me one bit. hes with me know so life is good :)

have a great weekend!

Jax said...

OMG this is an excellent post! I try to get rid of exes stuff.. but sometimes in a hurry, I've been known to shove a pic or two formerly in frames in between books on a shelf I've got... just to get them out of the way but not toss em or put them in a special box of their own. So then I'm annoyed when cleaning and find them later..and trash them. haha... As for mementos...not really cards or anything like that, no. I have some random items from bdays, etc, but they're actually useful and dont have "I came from an ex" written all over them. haha.. :)

And dude... the boyf has a back room/garage of stuff he intends to organize, etc...There were definitely some items I thought "hmm...this was SO from an ex!!" (like a cute holiday basket thing and card). But I didn't read it b/c I knew it'd piss me off. That's a bridge I'd cross if we weren't "just dating" so to speak. I'm just glad it's in a heap of random other stuff instead of in a private little place of it's own... haha! :)

And your convo with your hubs made me laugh out loud!! I love it! Cute cute post. :)

Elizabeth Marie said...

HAHA "little man"

I always keep stuff from old boyfriends but they don't mean anything, like t-shirts that are comfy and stuff like that. I don't keep anything sentimental. I'm a total hypocrite because if my bf was wearing a shirt an ex gave him, he'd be on the couch.

OH WELL :)

Happy Weekend lover!

Crazy Shenanigans said...

Hahahah! Love the dialogue. And yes that's my pet peeve when someone keeps trying to speak to me while I'm reading.

FateIsDreaming said...

Hmm. I can't imagine I have much from my exes - I do keep cards from EVERYTHING so if someone gave me a card it's probably with all the other ones but I couldn't say if there was anything from any ex.

I don't think I've ever run into anything from my hubby's exes... maybe pictures, but since I have TONS of photo albums, some with pictures of exes in them, I can't really fault him for that.

Brittany Ann said...

My husbands parents still buy him that stuff too! Such an odd thing, how men get all their "delicates."

Jill Pilgrim said...

My husband's mother buys him underwear all.the.time. Like what does she think happened to the 10 pairs she bought him last month? Its so perplexing.

The New Mrs said...

I love your conversations! And I love that polish color! What's the name of it?

Brittany said...

I don't think hubs has kept anything, and if he did, he has probably lost it by now. I have only kept one thing, which is a necklace. The only reason why I kept it is because I really, really like it and wanted it SO bad. It doesn't make me think of him, and I know hubs is the only one for me:)

Mia Schelle said...

in my sorting spree i have discovered some things i didn't realize i had. i'm tossing pajamas that an ex gave me, but there is NO WAY i'm getting rid of my ipod, ihome, jewelry, and camera. (wow...he was a good gift-giver!) any and all future boyfriends don't need to know where that stuff came from. especially since it's so far in the past i don't even associate those gifts w/ the ex when i use/wear them. i kept a cute card b/c it made me laugh, but after reading this blog, i think i'll just pitch it before i move. however, i will not throw away the scrapbook i spent hours and hours crafting. current/future boyfriends will just have to deal. that's a big part of my history...lots of fun with my friends and his. it's not all about him. or us. lol. but it is about my friends.